Its never easy losing a parent, especially one you are exceptionally close to. In my case, it was the loss of my Dad.
Our bond and relationship was so strong and I learned so much through him. From business to personal relationships, to life in general, there are so many lessons to share. In honor of Fathers Day, I’m going to tell you the 10 things that I constantly keep in mind and have shaped me to who I am today. (No specific order)
- ‘Always remember and stay true to who you are.’ Growing up, I remember being so trendy with everything and my Dad would insist I stick to who I am and not follow the crowd. Of course when your 16-17 years old, you roll your eyes at your parents for everything! I’m glad I out grew the ‘roll your eyes phase’ and started to listen. Nothing has helped me get as far as I am today if it weren’t my true personality and the faith I genuinely believe in.
- ‘If you’re going to aim, aim HIGH’. I remember looking at my Dad and telling him I wanted to be a Mechanic. This was when I was obsessed with cars and wanted to learn how to work on them. His response was very simple: ‘if you’re going to aim, aim high. Don’t be a mechanic, become a mechanical engineer. Why would you settle for less when you can do so much more?’ I can still hear his voice in the back of my head saying that; it’s truly why my standards stand where they are and will never be compromised.
- ‘Don’t worry about people, focus of yourself‘. Need I say more?
- ‘In order for people to respect you, you need to respect yourself’. Hence why the wardrobe and behavior remains modest. Not to mention I treat everyone with the same level of respect.
- ‘Stay honest. It’s what I admire the most about you.’ So true, honesty is the best policy. Even when it hurts to bite the bullet, say what you need to say without lying; it’s what will make you trustworthy.
- Be generous. He didn’t say to be generous, his habits and behavior did. I remember he took in a homeless guy and gave him a home in our business…furthermore, he also gave him a job and treated him like a genuine human being. In life , I think we get so caught up in our own struggle, we forget how important it is to simply acknowledge the next person in line. I make sure to smile, say hello and help in any and every way I can.
- Don’t forget to pray! Nuff said!
- Be grateful and thank God for everything. I haven’t read a book about being successful that doesn’t emphasize the importance of being grateful. Lucky me, I had a Dad who beat all those suckas to the punch! 😉
- Love. His appreciation to the people around him and to his family made me learn how to love others. Oh and when it came to my mom, she was treated like a Queen and nothing less. A marriage of 27 years held its weight not because of the things in common but because at the end of the day, my mom and siblings genuinely felt LOVED.
- Treat people the way you want to be treated. Seriously tho.
There are so many more stories I would love to share but I have such a heavy heart and it’s going to take some more time for the rest to come.
In short, I hope you have an amazing Father’s Day with your Dad. If you didn’t grow up with that dynamic and Dad wasn’t much of a figure, then I hope you feel valued as a man and one day you become an amazing Dad to your kiddos. For the women reading this, let’s value the men in our ciclr and the potential they have to shape society by simply being a great Dad. This includes your brothers, your sons and the men around you.
Happy Father’s Day
All my love,
RIP Daddy 11/10/1956-01/05/2011